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Jennifer J. Li's avatar

Suyin, thank you for sharing this very beautiful and moving contemplation. My circumstances are different from yours, but a lot of the emotions and insights you wrote about resonated with me. I also experienced something like a "death of self" a few months...it felt like my world was collapsing. But actually all that died was an image of myself that was impossible to fulfill, and all that collapsed was the false worldview I had built up around it. Far from the death of my self, these things had to die in order for me to actually live.

"I will do ____ once I get my life together again." I relate to this too much. Only years later do I realize that I was so busy trying to "figure myself out" that I forgot to live. I've definitely neglected friendships and become more distant with people not due to anything they'd done, but because I wanted to hide my problems. Of course when I really think about it, no one is actually judging me and they care about how I am doing regardless of my "success," just like I would in their position.

Two years ago, I found out that an important mentor of mine passed away - Professor Smith, who got me into philosophy in college (which ended up being my major). He pretty much disappeared halfway through my time at school; he left and then no one could contact him. His death was the first news I'd heard of him since then.

What I loved about Professor Smith is that he didn't just teach philosophy, he *lived* it and inspired his students to do the same, including me. But...creating one's own philosophy of life and especially to live it out is quite difficult, actually. Yet I still believe in it, and I think if anyone could understand how hard it is, and how lost and directionless one can be in the midst of it - it definitely would have been Professor Smith.

I did not know Mr. Perry, obviously, but from how you've described him, it seems that you are carrying on a bit of his spirit and still living out what he inspired in you. I believe that's the best we can do, for those who have passed on, to keep alive what they gave to us so that it may be passed on to others in time. To continue the cycle of regeneration and renewal, to ensure that there will be a rebirth after death.

aaliyah madadi's avatar

my dear Suyin, this piece, like all your pieces, moved me deeply to tears. Thank you for your depth, your stories, and for sharing the intimate ways you are navigating and making sense of this world -- I see myself in much of it. I am so deeply grateful to have a beautiful soul like you in my life, as a friend, as a sister. Going to leave my computer now and go for a walk and sip in life through my senses as I continue to muse on your words. so so much love to you, dear friend ♥️

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